The Plan

Yesterday, I met with the Baby-Making Doctor for the first time to review my test results and decide on a plan.  Ted had to work, so it was just me and the doctor.  Here’s what went down…

The first thing he did was to ask me how my experience had been so far.  I definitely hesitated due to my run-in with the mean nurse, and he picked up on it.  When I explained that this particular nurse had told me to just “wait until next month” to do my HSG, the doctor was appalled.  When I told him that I had been ready to just walk away from all of this after that appointment, he really got upset.  So, a patient advocate is going to be calling me to talk about what happened.  I felt infinitely better about the whole thing after talking to the doctor about it.  It was reassuring to know that that sort of behavior is not tolerated and shouldn’t have happened.

Next, we reviewed my test results.  Based on my two vagina-cams, I did ovulate last cycle.  Based on my bloodwork, my hormone levels are a little funky.  My HSG showed that my tubes were mostly clear, but there was some scar tissue in one that might be causing trouble.  Still, the doctor assured me that I would be able to get pregnant.  He gave me a 100% guarantee.  What does all this mean?  Well, it means we had to make a plan.  The doctor gave me a couple of options…

  1. Do nothing.  Keep trying on our own and we will get pregnant someday…in about 5-7 years.
  2. Have surgery to investigate and repair the scar tissue.
  3. Wait on the surgery.  Do a few months of hormone therapy, and if I’m still not pregnant, then have the surgery.
  4. IVF

We both instantly ruled out Options 1 and 4.  Waiting 5-7 years to get pregnant does not sound like my idea of fun, and IVF is expensive and unnecessary at this juncture.  Option 3 was slightly appealing because I really would rather not have surgery.  Still, if my tubes are too blocked up, the hormone treatments will be pointless, and we will have wasted months basically doing nothing.

I chose Option 2.  As much as I don’t want to have surgery, I’m tired of dicking around.  I want answers and solutions.  Hormone therapy is not fun, and I would hate to do it for 3 months and then find out I had to have the surgery anyway.  So, on September 23rd I will be having a laparoscopy and hysteroscopy to check out/repair my tubes.

I’m not thrilled about the surgery.  I’m not thrilled about missing work.  Still, I really feel like it’s the right choice for me, and my doctor agrees.  And you never know, I could get pregnant this month and we wouldn’t have to do this crap at all anymore!


  1. i have a very good feeling about this!!!

  2. I’m glad your doctor made you feel better after that horrible encounter with the nurse. Surgery is scary, but it sounds like the best option for you. I’m sure it will all be worth it in the end 🙂

  3. Ooo! Surgery doesn’t sound fun, but I’m so glad that there is something to fix. How long will your recovery be? Is it an outpatient surgery? I guess I could click the links and find out…

    I’ve been thinking about you a lot and praying for your success. When I wrote a post about supporting friends through infertility a few months ago, I had six friends/readers who had been struggling with fertility at the time (including you). Five are pregnant now. IT’S YOUR TURN!!! (not saying that my post made them pregnant – obviously it had nothing to do with it – just pointing out that there have been so many miraculous pregnancies lately that there’s got to be one in store for you just around the corner).

  4. I’m so glad you have a plan in place! I had a Lap last October (had an ovary removed and a cyst removed) and I’d be happy to talk to you about the surgery if you’re at all nervous about it.

  5. If you feel it is the right choice, then it IS the right choice! 🙂 I hope you get the results you’re looking for… I’ll be thinking about you!

  6. I am so happy that he gave you a plan of action! 🙂 Surgery does not sound fun but at least you know that this will work. I will keep you in my prayers!

  7. See! Things are looking up =)
    I’m glad that you got happy news from your doctor =)

  8. Doesn’t it feel good to have a plan? Even though I didn’t like my process at least there were answers. I will keep everything crossed for you!!!

  9. Im really glad youre taking steps forward and being positive instead of giving up!!

    We’re all proud of you for being so strong, Erin. You’re going to make a great Mom.

  10. BOO for surgery but … at least there’s a plan! I’m so glad the doctor was upset about that nurse, too…

  11. ZOMGoodness!! I just got so excited for you! Yay for options! Yay for moving forward! And yay for wishing that dumb nurse will get her ass fired….oh, am I the only one wishing that? Hm, my bad.


  12. Surgery is always scary, but at least you have answers! Good luck!!!!

  13. It makes me so happy that things are looking up for you! Surgery is scary and hard but I’m so impressed by your commitment and dedication 🙂 MISS/LOVE YOU!

  14. I know how terrifying elective surgeries can be this is for such a good reason: the love you & Ted have for each other spilling over so much that you want to share it with a child and I think that’s just awesome.

    I’ll be thinking positive thoughts for you both this month.

    9/23 is marked in the calendar for special prayers & maybe a care package =)

  15. Woot! 100%!! Babies!!

  16. Wow I’m glad your doctor telling you that not ovulating isn’t the case, and how that nurse is such a douche for treating you like that.

    Good luck for the surgery!:)

  17. I’m sure that wasn’t an easy decision to make, but hopefully it will provide answers and progress for you. Good luck!

  18. Although this doesn’t seem like the most pleasant option, at least it will give you some answers! And you have a plan! YAY! I hope everything goes well. I’ll be thinking about you!

  19. Hooray for a great doctor. I’m so glad he talked to you about the mean nurse and helped you with your plan. So exciting!

  20. Good golly Miss Molly! I’m so glad you finally got those answers you were waiting for. And I hope the mean nurse gets her comeuppance.

  21. I just learned the other day that one of my friends used option 4 to get pregnant her first time. It worked on the second try, and she had twins, then shortly after she got pregnant completely by surprise. Having so many girlfriends, I’m learning much, and just know that I support your decision and, even despite the distance, will keep you in my thoughts. Hugs!

  22. I’m proud of you for being so brave, and doing exactly what you and your doctor believe is necessary to move forward!

    Ironically, my older sister found out she was pregnant the day before she was supposed to go in for surgery (I believe it was a surgery like this, but I’m not exactly sure – it had something to do with trying to get pregnant). Things like that happen. It’s crazy pants. You’re right – you never know!


    Happy thoughts, my dear! You are amazing.

  23. It’s so great that your doctor was so understanding and supportive. I hope having a plan in place makes you feel a little better, even if you don’t love the idea of surgery. Sometimes, just making a decision and knowing your moving forward makes a huge difference.

    And I agree with Wishcake – you are amazing.

  24. I’m so glad that the doctor was so supportive and that you’re going to have the surgery. It’s the right choice for you, and I am crossing my fingers that it goes well.

    I know I’ve said it before, but thank you for sharing your experiences here. As someone who isn’t married and isn’t looking to have a baby anytime soon, reading about your experience with this is eye opening and heartbreaking. I understand it so much better since you’re explaining the ins and outs.

    Love you, chica. I’m here if you ever want to chat!

  25. I agree with EP, and want to thank you for sharing your experiences with the whole internet.

    As someone who is trying to make a baby, and understands somewhat the frustrations, I send you lots and lots of hugs!

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