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In just a few short days, Lindsey is getting married! So, those of us bloggers who know and love her wanted to send Lindsey off to her wedding with a bang. And what better way to do that than with wedding-themed posts? Be sure to visit Julie, our ringleader, for a full list of posts.

As a married woman with a whopping four years of marriage under her belt, I’d like to give out some marriage advice. I’ve given this advice out before to some of my nearest and dearest friends, and I think it’s important to remember:

A wedding does not a marriage make.

Now, I know that Lindsey is too smart a chica to believe that her wedding and her marriage are one in the same. However, I remember hearing this advice shortly before my own wedding, and I found it comforting. I wasn’t a bridezilla by any means, but being the anal person that I am meant that I still had hopes for a “perfect” wedding. Hearing that advice made me step back and think about what my wedding day was really about. It meant that it didn’t matter if it rained (which it did) or hailed (yup, that too) or if my piece of cake had strawberry filling instead of the Bailey’s filling that I wanted (damn those strawberries). None of that mattered. What mattered is that I was starting my life with Ted, as partners.

So, Lindsey, I hope that your wedding is a joyous day for you. I hope you wedding is everything you hoped it would be. But more than that, I hope that you look at your wedding not as the finish line to all that planning you’ve done, but as the beginning of an amazing journey. I hope that each day after your wedding you and Edgar continue to honor and support each other. I hope that you work to strengthen you marriage in everything you do for each other. I hope that when you look back on you wedding day that you won’t say that it was the happiest day of your life…because I wish your happiness to grow as your marriage grows.

I posted on weddings/marriage today BEFORE I EVEN READ THIS. Congrats Lindsey!

Erin, thank you so much for being a part of my virtual bridal shower! What an awesome surprise! I like your advice a lot. I’ve had to step back and try to tell myself these things…that there is no such thing as the perfect wedding and that the wedding isn’t the end, but the beginning. Some people (ahem, my mom, ahem) are stressing over what the weather will be. And I just keep saying to her, you know what? I can’t control the weather (and I am an anal control freak just like you LOL), but I know that there is no point to stressing because no matter what the weather is, the wedding will still be beautiful. I don’t think life is meant to be perfect and what makes life beautiful is the unexpected things and the little flaws that make up a day. So, those are my two cents about the matter.

So, thank you for saying all of those things and reminding me what is really important. I needed to hear that right now.

Great post, Erin! It reminds me of the toast Tim’s best man made at our wedding in which he said “I know this isn’t the happiest day of your lives because you have many more happiest days of your lives ahead of you.” Totally melted my heart, and it was so true!

AWWW.

Erin.
I loved this post. And I am so glad that you wrote it.

That is such sweet and great advice. Love it. That’s so nice of you to post about this

Just starting out in this whole wedding planning journey, I can’t tell you how many people want to know all about the WEDDING WEDDING WEDDING. It’s crazy how focused we can get on that one day, when really… it’s just a day. A wonderful day, but still just a day. Lovely post!

Amen.

I keep reminding myself of exactly this whenever I start to feel a little anxious about WHEN ARE AS AND I GOING TO GET ENGAGED.

What a sweet post! Congrats Lindsey! Good luck!

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